Reasons a Woman May Avoid Sex and How to Treat It

According to research, more women avoid sex at some point in their relationships, compared to men. This makes them miss out on and deprive their partners of some benefits that supposedly come with intimacy.

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There are multiple reasons why a woman may decide to stay away from sex. We discuss the common ones in this article plus possible solutions to the problem.

Sexual Dysfunction in Women

Without a doubt, male sexual dysfunction has received more attention from scientists for many years, compared to female sexual dysfunction. The increasing popularity of sexual enhancement products, however, has increased interest in learning more about the causes of sexual health issues in women as well.

It is probably safe to say that it is not a case of researchers not being interested in female sexual health all along. Rather, it is harder to fathom what is responsible for issues in women. More than one factor often comes into play and so dysfunction may not easily be treated with pills.

Loss of sexual desire is the most common manifestation of female sexual dysfunction, according to WebMD. Its medical name is hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). This condition can affect adult women of all ages.

It is normal for a woman to not have an interest in sex now and then. This only becomes a thing of concern when a lack of interest becomes frequent and starts causing problems in her life and relationship.

Low libido is only a sign of low sexual desire – it is not synonymous. HSDD also entails problems with other things such as sexual thoughts and fantasies that lead to arousal.

What Causes Women to Avoid Sex?

A woman can lose interest in intimacy due to a combination of factors, both physical and psychological. Let’s consider a number of these.

Physical and mental disorders

Different medical conditions are capable of making women find sex less interesting. An example of these is heart disease. Women who have this problem might be afraid of suffering an attack while having sex, making them avoid it.

Metabolic disorders, including obesity and diabetes, are also known to reduce sexual desire. This is in connection with resulting body image issues, which are not helpful for intimacy.

Chronic pain, thyroid disorders, fibroids, depression, and personality disorders are some of the other problems that can contribute to sexual dysfunction.

Relationship problems

It is quite obvious that a woman may avoid sex when having a disagreement with her partner. Issues could relate to infidelity, emotional dissatisfaction, or poor sexual performance of a partner. Also, welcoming a new baby into the family can take the idea of intimacy off the agenda for some time.


Scientists say that hormone levels drop in the body as a person grows older. In women, the amounts of androgen hormones decline naturally and constantly as a result of aging.

Apart from regular female sex hormones, testosterone is among the substances whose drop can reduce interest in sex. The decline becomes especially great when menopause kicks in.


The drugs a woman takes may also be a factor in why she avoids sex. Low sexual desire is a possible side effect of certain medications. Examples of such include oral contraceptives, hypertension drugs, and some antidepressants.

Some other factors that may cause women to lose interest in sex include:

  • Substance abuse
  • Job-related stress
  • Poor sleep
  • Peer pressure

How to Restore or Boost Interest in Sex

Sexual dysfunction in women typically requires more than one type of treatment. This is because both mental and physical factors could be responsible for the issue. The following are some that your doctor might suggest.

Estrogen therapy

The decline of the female hormone estrogen is a major reason why women avoid sex, particularly as they grow older. This produces symptoms that can make intimacy not enjoyable, such as vaginal dryness. Vaginal creams containing the hormone may be helpful for women who have entered menopause.

Testosterone therapy

Medical professionals, especially gynecologists, do recommend this treatment for postmenopausal women experiencing sexual dysfunction. The therapy can help to restore levels of the male hormone to what it was before menopause.


Since there could be a mental dimension to low sexual desire, you may find therapists helpful if you are a woman experiencing this. You should, therefore, consider seeking relationship counseling or sex therapy with your partner.

It is important to get treated for any underlying medical conditions if you found that such is responsible for the problem. You should also check with your doctor to determine if any medications you are taking might be to blame.

In spite of the treatments available, many women do not seek out professionals when having sexual problems. They find doing that somewhat embarrassing.  Women with this disorder may not be able to do without professional help in some cases, however.


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